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5. Dimitri A. Christakis, Frederick J. Zimmerman, David L. DiGuiseppe, Carolyn A. McCarty. “Early Television Exposure and Subsequent Attentional Problems in Children” Pediatrics, vol. 113, no. 4 (April 2004). Available at: http://pediatrics. aappublications.org/content/113/4/708.short
6. Tian Dayton. Trauma and Addiction: Ending the Cycle of Pain Through Emotional Literacy (Deerfield Beach, FL.: Health Communications, Inc., 2000), pp. 7–9.
7. “Addiction Risk Factors,” National Institute on Drug Abuse (January 2017). Available at: https://easyread.drugabuse. gov/sites/default/files/node_pdf/34-addiction-risk-factors.pdf.
8. “Cycle of Addiction,” Recovery Connection (January 1, 2011). Available at: http://www.recoveryconnection.com/cycle-addiction.
9. “Jane Fonda on Perfection.” Oprah’s Master Class, Episode 201, OWN Network January 2012.
10. Geneen Roth. Women, Food, and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything (New York: Scribner, 2010), p. 211.
11. Phillippa Lally, Corneila H.M. van Jaarsveld, Henry W.W. Potts, and Jane Wardle. “How Are Habits Formed: Modeling Habit Formation in the Real World,” European Journal of Social Psychology, vol. 40, no. 6 (October 2010), pp. 998–1009.
Chapter 5 Soul
1. Gregg Braden. The Divine Matrix (Carlsbad, CA.: Hay House, 2007), p. 55.
2. Luke Timothy Johnson. The Creed: What Christians Believe and Why It Matters (New York: Doubleday, 2003), pp. 34–5.
3. Rollin McCraty, Raymond Trevor Bradley, and Dana Tomasino, “The Resonant Heart,” Shift: At the Frontiers of Consciousness (December 2004–February 2005), pp. 15–9. Available at: https://www.heartmath.org/assets/uploads/2015/01/the-resonant-heart.pdf.
4. Frederica Mathewes-Green. The Jesus Prayer: The Ancient Desert Prayer that Tunes the Heart to God (Orleans, MA.: Paraclete Press, 2009), p. 76.
5. Father Thomas Keating. Intimacy with God: An Introduction to Centering Prayer (Spring Valley, N.Y., Crossroad Publishing Company, 1994), p. 18.
6. Rav P. S. Berg. The Essential Zohar, (New York, Three Rivers Press, 2002), p. 59.
7. Caroline Myss. The Power of Prayer: Guidance, Prayers, and Wisdom for Listening to the Divine (Louisville, CO.: Sounds True, 2011). [Audio]
8. Michael D. Lemonick. “Music on the Brain,” Time (May 28, 2000). Available at: http://content.time.com/time/magazine/ article/0,9171,46157,00.html.
8. Robert J. Zatorre and Isabelle Peretz, editors. “The Biological Foundations of Music,” Annals of the New York Academy of Sciences, vol. 930 (June 2001), pp. ix–x, 436, 452–456.
9. Peggy Peck. “ASH: Daily Doses of Bach and Breathing Lower Blood Pressure,” MedPage Today (May 23, 2008). Available at: http://www.medpagetoday.com/meetingcoverage/ash/9597.
10. Marloes J.A.G. Henckens, Erno J. Hermans, Zhenwei Pu, Marian Joëls, and Guillén Fernández. “Stressed Memories: How Acute Stress Affects Memory Formation in Humans,” Journal of Neuroscience, vol. 29, no. 32 (August 12, 2009), pp. 10111–19. Available at: http://www.jneurosci.org/ content/jneuro/29/32/10111.full.pdf.
11. Kim E. Innes, Terry Kit Selfe, Dharma Singh Khlasa, and Sahiti Kandati. “Meditation and Music Improve Memory and Cognitive Function in Adults with Subjective Cognitive Decline: A Pilot Randomized Controlled Trial” Journal of Alzheimer’s Disease, vol. 56, no. 3 (February 2017), pp. 899–916. Abstract available at: http://www.j-alz.com/vol56-3.
12. Sarka-Jonae Miller. “The Surprising Health Benefits of Humming,” Natural News (December 7, 2013). Available at: www.naturalnews.com/043157_humming_stress_reduction_heart_health.html.
13. Jennifer Crocker and Jessica J. Carnevale. “Self-Esteem Can Be an Ego Trap,” Scientific American Mind, vol. 24 (September/October 2013), pp. 26–33. Available at: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/self-esteem-can-be-ego-trap.
14. Marc Allen. Tantra for the West: A Direct Path to Living the Life of Your Dreams (Novato, CA.: New World Library, 1992), pp. 39–47.
15. Denzel Washington. 2015 Dillard University Commencement Speech [Video]. Available at: https://youtu.be/ua7kS-o3Vi4.
Chapter 6 It Takes a Village
1. “A Domestic Violence Awareness Resource Guide for Alpha Chi Omega” (September 15, 2013). Available at: https://www.alphachiomega.org/getmedia/6fb4e862-b2ad-4088-b5de-fc71126f30ad/Domestic_Violence_Awareness_Resource_ Guide_public.pdf;.aspx.
2. C.M. Sullivan. “Domestic Violence Shelter Services: A Review of the Empirical Evidence”, Harrisburg, PA. (October 2012). National Resources Center on Domestic Violence. Available at: http://www.dvevidenceproject.com.
3. National Center for Injury Prevention and Control. “Costs of Intimate Partner Violence Against Women in the United States,” Centers for Disease Control Prevention, Atlanta, GA. (March 2003). Available at: https://www.cdc.gov/ violenceprevention/ pdf/ipvbook-a.pdf.
4. “When Men Murder Women: An Analysis of 2013 Homicide Data,” Violence Prevention Center (September 2015). Available at: http://www.issuelab.org/resource/when_ men_murder_women_ an_analysis_of_2013_homicide_data.
5 Henry Weinstein. “High Court Shields Police Who Fail to Enforce Restraining Orders,” Los Angeles Times (June 28, 2005). Available at: http://articles.latimes.com/2005/ jun/28/nation/na-police28.
Chapter 9 Money Matters
1. Janice Green. Divorce After 50: Your Guide to the Unique Legal and Financial Challenges (El Segundo, CA.: NOLO, 2010), p. 160.
2. Ibid, pp. 159–60.
3. Ibid, p. 159.
Chapter 12 Life Lessons, Forgiveness, and Purpose
1. Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len. Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace and More (New York: John Wiley & Sons, 2007), pp. 205–6.
2. Rabbi Benjamin Rapaport. “The Forgiveness Prayer: Tools for Dropping the Toxic Baggage,” Aish.com (February 2, 2013). Available at: http://www.aish.com/ci/s/The-Forgiveness-Prayer.html.
3. Lynn Mary Karjala. Healing Everyday Traumas: Free Yourself from the Scars of Bullying, Criticism and Rejection (Roswell, GA.: Psychology Innovations Press, 2017), pp. 129–42.
4. Caroline Myss. Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing (New York: Three Rivers Press, 1996), p. 204.
5. Louise Hay. You Can Heal Your Life (Carlsbad, CA.: Hay House, 1984), pp. 19–23, 45–6, 56–7, and 82.
RESOURCES
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The additional resources listed below may prove helpful to you during your marital crisis and divorce. I am not providing an endorsement here for any of them. It is your responsibility to determine if they are beneficial and appropriate for your situation. Phone numbers and web addresses given were accurate at the time of publication. Resources are grouped in categories that are organized alphabetically.
If you’re in danger, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233. Also see the “Emergencies and Safety” section below.
CHILDREN AND TEENS
Child Help National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-4-A-CHILD (422-4453)
www.childhelp.org/hotline
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
1-800-THE-LOST (843-5678), 24-hour hotline
www.missingkids.com
National Runaway Safeline
1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)
www.1800runaway.org
Office of Child Support Enforcement (OCSE)
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/css
OCSE partners with federal, state, tribal and local governments and others to promote parental responsibility so that children receive support from both parents even when they live in separate households.
Resource Center on Domestic Violence:
Child Protection and Custody
1-800-527-3223
www.ncjfcj.org/dept/fvd
Safe Horizon
1-800-621-HOPE (4673)
www.safehorizon.org
Teen Line
800-TLC-TEEN (852-8336), 6–9 pm Pacific
Text “TEEN” to 839863, 6–9 pm Pacific
www.teenlineonline.org
DIET AND EXERCISE
Eating Disorder Hope
1-888-274-7732
www.eatingdisorderhope.com
My Fitness Pal
www.myfitnesspal.com
Weight Watchers
www.weightwatchers.com
YMCA
www.ymca.net
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ORGANIZATIONS
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
1-303-839-1852
www.ncadv.org
The mission of this organization is to advance transformative work, thinking, and leadership of communities and individuals working to end the violence in our lives. Their website has a state coalition list, which you can use to obtain support and advice appropriate for your situation.
No More Project
www.nomore.org
This national nonprofit organization, founded by business leaders, is dedicated to reducing and eliminating the costs and consequences of partner violence in the workplace. They provide education, initiatives to raise awareness and help prevent domestic abuse, information, materials, and advice.
National Network to End Domestic Violence
1-202-453-5566
www.nnedv.org
This social change organization is dedicated to creating a social, political and economic environment in which violence against women no longer exists.
EDUCATION AND CAREER
Kolbe Corp, Career Aptitude Assessments
www.kolbe.com/assessments/ opgig-career-program/
Career guidance is provided based on natural strengths and interests. Kolbe Corp has several assessment products that you may find helpful in planning your education and career.
SCORE Free Business Education and Mentoring
www.score.org
This national nonprofit association to help small businesses is supported by the U.S. Small Business Administration and a network of 10,000 volunteers.
Unemployment Help Center
https://unemploymentapply.com
This website provides unemployment resources, information, and links to apply for unemployment benefits for all fifty states. It is not affiliated with the government.
EMERGENCIES AND SAFETY
In an emergency, please call 911.
National Center for Victims of Crimes,
National Hotlines and Helpful Links
Crime Victims Hotline
1-855-484-2846
www.victimsofcrime.org/help-for-crime-victims/national-hotlines-and-helpful-links
Victim Connect Resource Center
1-855-4VICTIM (484-8446), 9 am–6 pm Monday to Friday,
Eastern time
www.victimconnect.org
National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233, 24-hour hotline
www.ndvh.org
Advocates are available to provide crisis intervention, safety planning, and referrals to agencies throughout the United States and in Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands.
National Sexual Assault Hotline, Rape,
Abuse & Incest National Network
1-800-656-HOPE (4673), 24-hour hotline
www.RAINN.org
This anti-sexual assault organization works with local rape crisis centers and provides live and anonymous support on their crisis hotline.
Safe Horizon
www.safehorizon.org
1-800-621-HOPE (4673), 24-hour hotline
Safe Horizon is a leading victim assistance organization in the United States.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK (8255),
www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org
Veterans Crisis Line
1-800-273-8255
www.veteranscrisisline.net
Victim Connect Resource Center
https://victimconnect.org
1-855-4-VICTIM (484-2846), 8:30am–7:30pm Eastern
This nonprofit organization has a confidential referral program for crime victims in the United States.
VINE
www.VineLink.com
VINE is a national organization that helps women search for an offender who is in custody, either by name or identification number, and allows them to register to be alerted if he has escaped or been transferred or released.
FINANCES
Allstate Foundation, Financial Empowerment Tools
http://purplepurse.com/get-empowered/financial-tools
Defense Finance and Accounting Services (DFAS)
www.dfas.mil/mypay.info
Equifax (credit rating agency)
1-800-685-1111
www.equifax.com
Experian (credit rating agency)
1-888-397-3742
www.experian.com
Federal Agency and State Benefits and Assistance
http://www.benefits.gov
National Network to End Domestic Violence
nnedv.org/projects
The Economic Justice Project at NNEDV provides knowledge and skills to domestic violence survivors to become financially independent.
Smart About Money Program, Budgeting Tool
https://www.smartaboutmoney.org/Tools/Budget-Wizard
National Endowment for Financial Education
www.nefe.org
An independent, nonprofit foundation committed to educating Americans on a broad range of financial topics and empowering them to make positive and sound decisions to reach their financial goals.
Social Security Benefits
www.socialsecurity.gov
Transunion (credit rating agency)
1-800-916-8800
www.transunion.com
Treasury Direct, Savings Bond Calculator
www.treasurydirect.gov/indiv/tools/tools_savingsbondcalc.htm
FINANCIAL ADVISOR BACKGROUND CHECK
Financial Industry Regulatory Agency, Broker Check Tool (free)
https://brokercheck.finra.org
1-800-289-9999
FINRA is an independent, nongovernmental regulator for all securities firms doing business with the public in the United States.
HEALTH CARE AND INSURANCE
Affordable Health Insurance Plans
www.affordable-health-insurance-plans.org
Health Care (U.S. federal government)
www.healthcare.gov
1-800-318-2596
This is the official website of the Affordable Healthcare Act. Also see your state’s local healthcare exchange: Search “Name of your state” + “healthcare exchange” online.
Health Insurance
www.healthinsurance.org
Medicare
www.medicare.gov
Medicare is a federal health insurance program that pays for hospital and medical care for elderly and certain disabled Americans.
Medicaid
www.medicaid.gov
Medicaid is a federal social health care program for families and individuals with limited resources.
Office on Women’s Health, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
https://www.womenhealth.gov
1-800-944-9662, 9 am–6 pm Eastern Monday–Friday
LEGAL ADVICE
American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers
1-312-263-6477
www.aaml.org
American Bar Association, Directory of State and Local Associations.
https://shop.americanbar.org/ebus/abagroups/divisionforbarservices/barassociationdirectories/statelocalbarassociations.aspx
Avvo
https://www.avvo.com
Avvo is a legal directory that provides legal guides and articles.
Divorce Source
www.divorcesource.com
Divorce Source is a legal directory with informative articles provided by members, a community forum, and divorce blogs.
Law Help
https://www.lawhelp.org
This website provides information about legal questions and free legal forms.
Legal Services Corporation
www.lsc.gov
Legal Services Corporation is an independent nonprofit that provides financial support for civil legal aid to low-income Americans.
National Center for State Courts, Marriage/Divorce/Custody/Support Resource Guide
http://www.ncsc.org/Topics/Children-Families-and-Elders/Marriage-Divorce-and-Custody/Resource-Guide.aspx
Nolo
www.nolo.com
Nolo is a legal directory that provides legal articles and products.
WomensLaw.org
www.womenslaw.org
This organization provides legal information and online support for victims of domestic violence or sexual assault. Legal forms are available on this site, as well as state statutes, safety tips, where to find help, how to prepare for court, websites for national resources, chats and message boards.
