Only This Beautiful Moment, page 1
Dedication
For Evie and Rumi
I will always love you most
in this beautiful moment
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Dedication
Moud
Saeed
Bobby
Moud
Saeed
Bobby
Moud
Saeed
Bobby to Babak
Moud
Author’s Note
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Books by Abdi Nazemian
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Copyright
About the Publisher
Moud
2019
Los Angeles to Tehran
Being gay on the internet is exhausting. That’s what goes through my head as I de-gay my social media. Gone are all my opinions about Drag Race and whether straight actors should be allowed to play gay roles. Gone is every picture I’ve ever posted of me and Shane kissing or holding hands or ironically painting rainbow flags on our chests (ironic because we’re not the kind of gays who post thirst traps, not because we don’t respect our flag). When I’m done deleting everything, all that’s left is a void. It’s like I have no past. Just possibility.
There’s a knock on the door. “Mahmoud,” my dad says from the other side. He’ll never call me Moud, no matter how many times I ask. He just doesn’t want to acknowledge the real me.
“You can come in.” Ever since my dad walked in on me and Shane studying on my bed together, he won’t enter without being explicitly told to. We were fully clothed, by the way. We had open copies of trigonometry textbooks in front of us. And my dad was still shocked. Maybe because our feet were bare and our toes were touching. Maybe because Shane was wearing a T-shirt that read Make America Gay Again. Maybe because despite having come out to him two years before, he had neatly compartmentalized that conversation away into the part of his brain where he stores the things he never talks about. Like me being gay. Like my mom being gone. Like my grandfather being sick. Deny, repress, avoid.
Well, he eventually told me about that last one. He had to before it was too late. I guess, given my dad’s history of emotional evasion, I shouldn’t have been surprised that he hid my grandfather’s cancer from me until the very last minute. Hiding pain is a deeply Iranian thing, and my dad is deeply Iranian.
“Dad, I’m alone. You can come in.”
He opens the door and peeks in. He hasn’t shaved, which for him is a sign that he’s not doing well. He thinks we look like terrorists when we don’t shave. “We have to go back to the Pakistani embassy,” he says. “Your passport is ready.”
“Oh, wow.” Something about the knowledge that there’s an Iranian passport with my name and picture on it stops me cold, like a piece of paper has already changed me. I’m still staring at my computer, at the blankness of my social media profiles. I guess I expected the process of wiping away all those memories to be traumatic. Technically, I’m giving up my freedom out of fear that some Iranian authority might punish me for it. But it’s the opposite. Because the memories that matter feel stronger inside me the moment they belong only to me and not to some data center in the cloud. In a strange way, by giving up what should be a piece of my freedom, I feel more free. I wish I could talk to my dad about this, but I don’t talk to my dad about anything. I wish I could talk to Shane about it too, but I already know he’s going to be pissed.
I close my computer and stand up. “Put a coat on,” my dad says.
“It’s Los Angeles. It’s never cold.” Not entirely true. It’s a crisp November day.
He stares me down, and I find a coat. It belonged to my grandfather. He gave it to me the last time we saw each other in Geneva. He said he was shrinking and I was growing, so it was time to pass his clothes on to me.
Iranians don’t have an embassy in the United States, so we have to use a wing of the Pakistani embassy. There are a few families entering at the same time as us, and as they do, the women throw on their head coverings, preparing to enter a world with different rules.
Iranian passport in hand, I ask my dad to drop me off at Shane’s house. He just nods and heads up the hill. He still refers to Shane as my friend, even though he knows we’re more than that.
Mrs. Waters opens the door when I buzz. “Moud!” she says, that permanent ring of optimism in her voice. She gives me a hug, then waves at my dad, still parked in the car. “Hello, Mr. Jafarzadeh.”
My dad rolls his window down a couple of inches. “Hello, how are you?” he asks politely. My dad is always well-mannered in public, more concerned with what strangers think of him than his own son.
“No complaints. You want to come in?” she asks.
“No, no,” he stammers. “I have a lot to do before our trip.” He adds a “thank you” before driving off.
Mrs. Waters leads me inside, an arm around me. “Trip?” she asks. “Where are you going?”
“Oh,” I say. “It’s complicated.” It’s really not complicated. I’m going to Iran to see my grandfather before he dies. The complicated part is that I haven’t told Shane about it because I’m scared of how he’ll react.
“Is everything okay?” she asks, and the warmth in her voice immediately makes me long for a new parent. Would my mom have checked in on my feelings the way Mrs. Waters does? Would she have responded differently to my coming out?
“Yes,” I say. “Well, no, actually. My grandfather is sick.”
“Oh, I’m so sorry. The music teacher in Iran?” I’m shocked that she knows this. Shane really tells her everything.
I nod. “I haven’t told Shane yet, so . . .”
“Well, I’m sure he’ll be a great support to you. He’s upstairs recording.”
Mrs. Waters squeezes my hands and stares at me misty-eyed. She’s already shown more emotion over Baba’s illness than his own son has.
I open the door to Shane’s bedroom as quietly as I can. I know how seriously he and Sonia take their podcast, Down with America? It does have a surprisingly high number of subscribers for a show recorded by two teenagers in a bedroom.
“I’m sorry, but I’m not down with it,” Shane says. “We don’t buy music anymore, so we’ve forced our favorite musicians into creating makeup lines and perfumes, which then distracts them from doing the exact thing we want them to do, which is make more music!”
“I mean!” Sonia says, incredulous. “No one is holding them hostage and telling them to become a brand.” A small piece of me bristles at the word hostage, which always reminds me of the Iran hostage crisis. “And how much time do you think a pop star really spends on their makeup brand? They’re just licensing their name. Let’s get real.”
“I am real,” Shane says, smiling at me. “And our listeners know how I feel about the word real, and the implication that anything in this world is fake. Everything is authentic, especially artifice.”
“Anyway, maybe it’s a good thing your favorite singers aren’t making as much music as they used to. Less opportunities for them to enjoy a little cultural appropriation.”
“We’ve already covered that in another episode,” Shane says. “For now, we want to hear from you, our listeners.”
“Celebrity brands. Are you down with them, America?”
“And now, I’m going to give my boyfriend, Moud, who just walked in, a real big kiss as we play some listener responses to our last show about queer pain.”
Shane gets up and welcomes me in. As his lips meet mine, Sonia hits play on some tape from listeners. A strident voice fills the room. “I am not down with queer pain. I’m so sick of queer characters suffering in our stories. And let’s talk about how our stories are always centered on coming out to straight people. Especially parents. Aren’t we over that?”
“Yeah, Moud, aren’t you over that?” Shane asks, his lips gently kissing my neck.
“Stop,” I whisper. I know what he wants. He wants me to say I’m over my dad. He wants me to leave my dad all alone and move in with him and his parents, into an accepting home. He actually suggested that once when I was crying over my dad not acknowledging my sexuality. Like leaving my home would be that easy.
As he continues kissing my neck, I think of how much I love him. His power and authority. His fearlessness. He’s the reason I came out in the first place. And also, I think of the language barrier between us. Sure, we know the same words. But we obviously approach things differently, and I often find myself defending my homophobic dad when Shane attacks him. I’m sure I would defend Shane if my dad ever attacked him, but he doesn’t. He just never brings him up. Maybe the struggle isn’t between me and Shane at all. It’s between the side of me that feels a duty to defend my family, and the side of me that wants to unapologetically celebrate my sexuality.
What Shane keeps forgetting is that my dad is my only living parent. I said that to Shane once, and he said I could find a chosen family. That’s what it really boils down to. Shane wants me to choose him. He and my dad aren’t so different in some ways.
“So,” Shane says. “What did you think?”
“What I heard was great,” I say. “It always is. You guys are naturals.”
“When are you going to be our guest?” Sonia asks.
“Oh,” I say. “I’m not like you two. I wouldn’t know how to express my thoughts on the spot like that. I’m just a listener.”
“The world needs listeners.” Shane smiles as h
“You sound like my dads,” Sonia says. “They have this whole thing about how one of them is a bartender and the other serves hors d’oeuvres.”
“Sorry, what?” Shane asks. “I like my relationship theory better.”
“It’s kind of the same theory,” she counters. “The bartender stands in one place and waits for people to come to him, and the other person is working the room, passing out finger foods. And speaking of fingering, I told Becca I’d go see her.”
Shane and I both burst out laughing. To punctuate her point, Sonia flashes us two middle fingers as she leaves the room. Then she immediately adopts her sweetest tone when she says, “Bye, Mrs. Waters” while descending the stairs.
The air in the room is thick when it’s just the two of us. The passport in my pocket suddenly feels like it weighs ten pounds.
Shane pulls me in for a kiss, but he must sense my hesitation because he says, “What’s wrong?”
“It’s . . . Well, can we sit down?”
“Moud, is everything okay?”
“Just let me figure out where to start.” I sit on his bed. There’s a copy of The Velvet Rage next to his pillow. His scent seems to waft up from the sheets when I sit on them, giving me a moment of strength. “So my grandfather is sick.”
“Wait, what?” He sits next to me, curling his legs around me. “How sick?”
“Really sick.” I hear the numb distance in my voice. “Stage four lung cancer sick.” I shake my head. “I always thought he’d make it to a hundred years old, but I guess that was wishful thinking.”
“But . . . I don’t understand. How did he just find out?”
“He didn’t just find out. I just found out.” I hear the lie and immediately correct it. “Well, I found out a couple of weeks ago.”
“And you didn’t tell me?” I feel his legs stiffen around me. “That’s a very your dad thing to do.”
“Yeah, well, my dad hid my grandfather’s cancer from me for two years. I didn’t tell you for three weeks.”
“You said a couple of weeks. A couple is two weeks. How long has it really been?”
I push myself away from him and stand up. “Shane, my grandfather is going to die. Can we talk about that instead of how long it took me to tell you? I’m not good at talking about pain, okay? That’s like, a hereditary cultural thing for me.”
“That’s so unfair,” he says. “When you say it’s a cultural thing, you totally shut down my point of view.”
“Okay, whatever. I thought every successful relationship has a talker and a listener. Well, I’m obviously not the talker, so don’t punish me for being bad at talking.”
He bites his lip. He does that when he’s nervous. “I’m sorry. You know I’m sensitive about being lied to. Of course I want to support you. What can I do?”
For starters, he can stop saying I lied to him when I didn’t. There’s a difference between lying and processing the truth, but that’s a conversation for another day. “You can support my decision to go to Iran,” I whisper, avoiding his gaze.
He says nothing. Just sits there biting his lip. I pull out the passport and show it to him. “Weird, right? I’m a dual citizen now.”
“But you weren’t born there.”
“Yeah, but my dad was. All you have to do is have an Iranian father with a Shenasnameh, and you can get a passport.”
“A what?”
“It’s an identity card. My dad has one, since he was born there.”
“What if you just have an Iranian mother?” he asks, cross-examining me.
I shake my head. “Then you can’t get a passport, and you can’t inherit property, or . . .” Sensing what he’s going to say, I add, “Look, I know there’s a lot that’s messed up about Iran, but—”
“But they kill gay people!” he blurts out, finally saying it.
“They don’t . . . I mean, yes, they have, but they don’t always . . . What I’m saying is that it’s rare and . . .”
“Are you listening to yourself? You’re defending a regime that wants you dead.” He’s using his podcast voice now, like he wants to teach me something. Maybe he thinks me defending my dad and defending the regime are the same thing. That it means I don’t love myself enough or something.
“I’m not defending anyone. I just want to see my grandfather before—”
“I get that. Of course I do. But your whole relationship has been on WhatsApp, except for a few trips. And those were to Europe or Turkey, not Iran.”
“Well, he’s too sick to travel, so this is the only option. And Turkey is part of Europe.”
“A part of Turkey is a part of Europe,” he says. Then, softening, he pulls me back to the bed and envelops me in his arms. “Okay, wait. I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m sorry about your grandfather, and I’m sorry about my reaction. I just don’t want you to . . . you know . . .”
“I’m not . . .” I can’t say the words. Of course I’m a little scared. Like everyone else, I’ve seen the photos of two gay teenagers being publicly hanged in Iran. Isn’t that why I removed any sign of my sexuality from the internet?
“Shh,” he says. “Let me just be here for you right now.”
“Okay,” I say, closing my eyes.
“When do you leave?”
“The day after tomorrow,” I whisper, awaiting another round of shock.
“Oh, wow.” I feel Shane stop himself from asking why I waited until the last minute to tell him. He’s not very good at repressing his urges, and I feel a wave of gratitude to him for doing it just this once. And a wave of gratitude to him for being him. Isn’t he the reason I’m not still hiding who I am from my dad? The reason I’ve been able to accept and love myself? “What about school?”
“I can do an independent study so I don’t mess up my senior year transcript,” I explain. “I’ll be back after the winter holidays, unless . . .” I don’t finish the sentence. There are so many things that could go wrong. Baba could die before the end of the year. I could be arrested and thrown in jail.
“I’m really going to miss you.” I gaze into his eyes, and when he closes them, I kiss his eyelids.
“Me too,” he says. “I guess we won’t be together for New Year’s Eve. It’ll be weird, bringing in a new year without you.”
“I’ll be back way before the Persian new year. All is not lost.”
“All is never lost.” He smiles and lies down.
I lie next to him, my head on his chest. As I gaze up at the blankness of his ceiling, I’m reminded of the blankness of my social media. All the Shane and Moud history I erased. Like that video of the first time he played his ukulele for me, composing a melody just for us. He called it “Shane and Moud’s Theme.” He explained that in all great romantic films, the lovers have a melody that repeats in the score when they’re together. This was our melody. He told me to imagine it playing every time he kissed me, then he kissed me for the first time. We photographed it. Posted it. And now I’ve deleted it.
I should tell him about wiping my feed. I should say something. Because if there’s one thing about me that annoys him, it’s that I sometimes expect him to read my mind because I’m no good at putting my feelings into words. But I can’t. Not when I’m staring at the Harvey Milk poster on his wall, the one with the words Every gay person must come out on it.
How do I tell my boyfriend, who believes that every queer person must be loud and proud, that I just went a little bit back in? And how do I tell my boyfriend, who expresses his every opinion online, that I already feel liberated by my online absence? That it feels good not to feel the pressure to engage in every debate and every meme. That I don’t want to post another photo of a pop star and label it “gay rights.” That I never really cared about stan wars, or mac ’n’ cheese recipes, or who was Mom, or who snatched our wigs, or who centered what, or who platformed what, or what went viral, or who always understood the assignment, or who never understood the assignment, especially ’cause when it comes to social media, the person who never understood the assignment was me. I never understood why I needed to document my dull life. People love to begin by saying, “I don’t know who needs to hear this, but . . .” And the thing is, usually no one needs to hear it.
